You may think that it’s impossible to find love when you are 60 years old or older. This is an age demographic that is often left out in the dating world, and more so when it comes to online dating.
After all, you may wonder who would want to date you – someone who is from the wrong generation and was born before cellphones and the internet existed?
Honestly, though, you can still find love at 60. You aren’t too old for a romantic adventure.
You just need to know where to look for your romantic partner, and you need to be open-minded to the possibility of finding love.
If you are ready to go searching for love at 60, I’ve got a comprehensive guide with everything you need to know.
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Why Is Dating at 60 So Challenging?
A study from the University of Bath, which is located in the United Kingdom, found that if you are 60 and older, your chance (or odds) of finding love is 1 in 562. That is, if you are waiting for the universe or fate to send you love. If you take a proactive approach to love and romance, you most definitely have a shot at meeting “the one” (or “the next one”).
When you are 60 (or older), chances are high that you’ve loved and lost a love or two – whether through divorce, parting of ways, or death. You are single and not a spring chicken anymore.
Finding love and dating is not easy, and it seems so much more challenging when you are older:
- You have less energy even if you still have a zest for life.
- You may be unhealthy, and being ill is enough of a struggle without adding the “find love” hurdle in.
- You don’t want all the drama that comes with ghosting, romance scams, and the typical “play hard to get” games.
- You don’t know if it’s appropriate dating someone who is younger than you – but you do know you don’t want to be a mother for your lover.
- Even those romantic interests your age aren’t without their issues.
- You are picky with whom you want for a romantic partner because you know what you want and what you will and won’t put up with. (#admirable)
- Where do you even begin to find a love interest? Your friend pool is dwindling, you may live in a one horse town, and you may not want to date the people you’ve known for decades. Plus, what the heck is online dating?
- While you want to love and be loved, you also want a partner who offers friendship and stability. You want to be accepted, valued, and appreciated for who you are. The person you fall for should also be caring and kind, and be able to build emotional closeness and other forms of intimacy
So yes, romantic love at 60 and beyond can be a challenge but it is possible – if you put yourself out there. You may find love, or it may find you. You just need to look for it and be open to the possibility.
Can I Find a Match If I Am Over 60?
You can find a match even if you are a senior citizen. There is, after all, no age limit on love.
There’s a high possibility that you know what you are looking for; so you just need to find it. You can find love at one of the places where you go bowling, painting, or hiking; you can even find your soulmate at the local park, the religious institution of your choice, or when you go on vacation.
The other option, of course, is online dating.
Technology may seem very intimidating, but most online dating sites are user-friendly. You don’t need a special degree or to keep asking your kids or grandkids to help you out. Plus, you can watch some YouTube videos or read guides on how to sign up, set up your dating profile, and find who you are looking for.
While you can use the search parameters on the online dating site (you choose aspects like age, gender, geographical location, physical attributes, and more), some dating sites automatically send you a list of highly compatible matches.
So you see, a love match is very possible!
What to Consider When Dating Online After 60
No matter your age, there are various factors you need to consider when dating online. If you are new to the online dating scene when you are in your sixties, these factors just become even more important.
Consider the following when you try out international or niche dating sites after 60:
- Don’t just sign up to the first dating site you find. Do your homework on the platform by reading reviews, checking out ratings on third-party review sites like Trustpilot and Sitejabber, and finding as much information about the site as possible.
- Find a site that is suited for your love interest. For example, you may be into sugar dating and want to be someone’s sugar momma or sugar daddy. Or you may want to find interracial love. Or find a lover who’s gender fluid. Or a traditional man who has similar hobbies, interests, values, and life outlook.
- Check out the cost of the online dating site. Whether you have the means to pay for every message and sticker or you need to count your pennies, know what you sign up for, what services and features are free, which are paid-for, and how much finding love will cost you.
Common Mistakes for Dating Over 60
If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while, you may not know what to expect, and thus, can easily make a few mistakes. So here are common mistakes when you are dating at the age of 60+:
- Thinking you are too wise to be scammed. Research shows that elderly people are more likely to fall for a romance scam, so educate yourself about what to look out for, what questions to ask a potential scammer to suss them out, and how you can protect yourself.
- Not being open to casual relationships. You may be traditional and think that love should be “till death does us part” but if you and your romantic partner are upfront about your expectations and don’t make any false promises, a casual relationship with a compatible Mr Right can be fulfilling and fun.
- Only going to the local park to meet a love match. Casting a wider net is better to catch a match. So try various online dating apps and services, join a few clubs (a book club, hiking club, or a cooking club), and go to new places.
- Discarding your friends, coworkers, and neighbors as love matches.
- Sharing your personal information. Especially on online dating sites, you’ve got to be careful what you share. You want to present an authentic version of you, but keep your address, phone number, email address, social security number, bank account number, and similar info to yourself. You can share contact details when you know your love match better and you know it isn’t too good to be true (and thus a scam).
- Judging potential love matches. You have a past, so do they.
- Rushing into the relationship or having airy-fairy dreams about the love match being the love of your life. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and it may take a while before you find someone you really connect with. That may be the first person who messages you or whom you message, or it may be number 20. Relax, enjoy the journey, and see where love takes you.
- Comparing your new romantic partner with your dead husband or a previous lover. Every person is unique and brings something new to the relationship. You may be surprised by how well you and your new love match gels even though you didn’t think they are your type.
- Worrying about what other people think. Your love life is your business. You don’t have to share that you are dating or on the market with your friends and family until you are ready.
- Trying to do what young people do when dating. You need to find what works for you.
- Finding and dating an ex. If they are the “one who got away,” then sure, hit up your ex. But beware that dating an ex can open a can of worms, and while you are both older, it’s likely that you’ll have the same issues (and some new problems) now as you did before.
Our Top Tips for You
At the end of the day, everyone wants to love and be loved and feel connected.
Now that you know you can find love at 60+ (if you are in the market), here are our top tips for you!
- When you start dating at 60, know what you want: a soulmate, a sexual partner, or a platonic relationship.
- Love yourself. You can only love someone else when you love yourself first and accept yourself for who you are.
- Be open-minded about finding love; it may not look like you dreamed about but the right person for you is out there.
- Consider an online dating site or two. The dating pool is a lot bigger when you are looking for love the world over.
- Go out and meet new people who share the same hobbies and passions you do.
- Remember, your new love match can’t replace the love you’ve lost.
- Be reasonably cautious, and run if something is too good to be true. A romance scammer isn’t picky about gender or age; you can be a target (and unfortunately, a con artist thinks the elderly are weak and easy targets).
- Trust your gut.
- Have fun and see this as a new adventure.
Ready to start your online dating journey at the age of 60+? Then your next read must be my guide on the essential rules for international online dating.
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