“Do I know you? Cause you look a lot like my next girlfriend.”
Now, this is an example of how not to handle this situation.
Picture this: Have you ever been in a shopping aisle or at a crowded party and experienced that feeling that someone is watching you?
Yes? Well, same.
When a single lady checks you out, you may be caught totally off guard, and the way you handle the situation sets the tone for what happens next.
I remember one day in particular when I was checking out a nice-looking guy. He noticed me noticing him and he threw me the most dazzling smile I’d ever seen. To cut a long story short, he approached me a couple of minutes later, and we both left very dissatisfied. He was very cocky, and the first thing he did was throw a cheesy one-liner at me. He had a cute face, so I let it slide.
But when he started talking about himself and cutting me off when he asked me questions, I realized I was not into this guy, and I regretted checking him out (#abortmission) and even more what happened when he came over.
If you are a shy guy or you’re uncertain about how to approach a woman who has checked you out, then have no fear. I have compiled a simple and practical list of dos and don’ts to help you successfully approach a woman who has checked you out.
But first, let’s take a look at why it’s essential to know that you’ve been checked out.
The Importance of Knowing You’ve Been Checked Out
In a world that’s dominated by technology and screen time, it feels like the human race has no idea how to flirt face to face anymore. So when someone takes the time to check you out, it’s hard not to jump out of your skin with excitement.
It’s essential to maintain your composure and ensure the person is interested in you before putting your heart out there and risking it all, over one glance.
You also don’t want to misread the situation and embarrass yourself by approaching someone who isn’t interested in you.
5 Common Signs a Lady Has Checked You Out
Here’s a look at 5 common signs a lady has checked you out:
5 Major Dos After a Single Woman Looks at You
1. Look Out for the Signals
Before leaping in and sweeping her off her feet (#exaggerationmuch), you need to ensure you are reading the signals correctly. I can’t imagine anything worse (or more embarrassing) than misreading the signs and approaching a woman you don’t know – and realizing she actually wasn’t checking you out.
Sometimes a woman is simply sizing you up, which doesn’t necessarily mean she wants you to rush over and strike up a convo with her.
Take some time and try to make eye contact with her again. If she does award you a second look, you can give her a little, friendly smile. (Please don’t grin with satisfaction. That is a turnoff.)
You could wave if she smiles back and the smile doesn’t appear strained. If she waves back, then it’s likely she may be interested. Just remember that every woman is unique, and some of us are shy, so some of the signals may be subtle. Wait for the right moment before you approach her.
2. Respect Social Norms
It’s so important to remember to respect social norms when approaching a woman, especially a woman you have never met before. Simply going up to a lady and striking up a convo can be tricky.
From my experience, having a random man approach you isn’t something that happens to a woman often, and it can be pretty surprising. When you approach a lady, it’s not always about what you say. It has a lot to do with how you approach her.
Be mindful of your body language and attitude, as you don’t want to come across as over-confident and cocky. Keep eye contact when speaking to her and make sure not to stand too close, as this can be misread as intimidation.
3. Compliment Her
Women appreciate it when a man points out something unique about her or what she is wearing. You could mention that you thought she has an excellent fashion sense, and her cardigan suits her.
You need to be careful that you don’t come across as creepy. A genuine compliment goes a long way (trust me).
Besides, if you approached a lady and complimented her on something that you genuinely liked, it would be easier to start a conversation with her, and your personality will shine through.
4. Make a Good Impression
I’m sure you know the saying, “He’s nice from afar, but far from nice.”
Well, this applies here. If you unexpectedly caught a woman checking you out, you might be in a situation where you didn’t have time to fix your hair or get that shave you should have booked a week ago. It’s understandable.
But, the first few minutes are crucial when you attempt to approach a woman. If you look like a guy who doesn’t look after himself, I can assure you the lady will not pay you much attention.
5. Just Be You
At the end of the day, the best thing to do is just be yourself when you approach a woman. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t.
Just remember, if you start off with a lie, keeping up that facade when you take her out on your first date will be hard.
Women are also pretty good at sussing out when a man is not being truthful, and we appreciate honesty.
So, just be you.
4 Major Don’ts After a Single Woman Looks at You
6. Avoid Cheesy One-Liners
“Do you believe in love at first sight—or should I walk by again?”
Yeah, as a modern woman, this line will definitely get my attention, but not in a good way. Cheesy one-liners aren’t taken seriously by women, as it sounds too forced, ingenuine, unoriginal, and, dare I say it, practiced?
As a woman, I can’t think of anything more annoying than having a man come up to me and confidently reciting one of his well-versed pick-up lines. Obviously, there are some exceptions to the rule, as some women may find a cheesy pickup line sweet if it’s delivered properly.
A poorly delivered cheesy line can make you look creepy, and the lady will not want anything to do with you.
7. Absolutely No Cat-Calling
If I can give you any advice, it’s this:
Never cat-call a woman, it makes her feel like she is being objectified, and that is certainly not how you want to approach a lady.
Personally, if someone cat-calls me, I make a point of deliberately ignoring them and walking away.
Just because she has checked you out doesn’t mean you need to get her attention by whistling at her or yelling things like “hey, sexy.” It’s degrading and highly demeaning. Instead, save your whistles for your dogs at home.
8. Don’t Get Ahead of Yourself
Even though women appreciate confidence in a man, that doesn’t mean you should ask her out on a date straight away. You shouldn’t assume that she has even considered going on a date with you (after all, it was just a look).
Rushing in and asking her out right away can come across as desperate. Avoid discussing future marriage plans and children (yes, this has happened to me). This is likely to scare her off for sure and only sends red flags her way. Keep it simple, and don’t dominate the conversation.
9. Don’t Ask Intrusive Questions
So you have read all the signals, and you finally built up the courage to talk to this lady, and things are going well until you ask the wrong question. Be careful about the questions you decide to ask her. Try not to get too personal too quickly.
A woman wants a relaxed conversation if a stranger approaches her on the street. She certainly doesn’t want to feel awkward or like she is being interrogated.
Last Thoughts on the What to Do After a Single Woman Looks at You
It’s exhilarating to know that a woman is checking you out, but it’s crucial to remember that being checked out isn’t a promise of a date or finding your soulmate (although some people are lucky).
It’s another person taking the time to signal their attraction toward you and potentially seeing where things could go between you. Women are not necessarily just after men who are good looking; they are interested in men that are attractive, and there is a big difference.
Even if a woman rejects you, that doesn’t mean every woman will. Life is short. Revel in the moments and respect the situation for what it is.