From that first “I do” to the final breath as a couple, marriage has some interesting moments, though we may struggle to find the words to describe these. But many couples have been in similar boats, and there are many wise words that apply to the matrimonial state and your partnership with the person you love.
These wise words can help you navigate the waters of marital bliss, steer when emotions run wild, and appreciate the calm before the next storm as you and your partner sail the seas of your relationship.
Here are a couple of marriage quotes that will help you find truth and harmony in your own marriage.
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To help you find your way through these quotes, I’ve divided them into different categories, each focusing on the various aspects of married life. Enjoy and find the truth in your happy union.
2. Marriage Is About Sacrifice
In marriage, you can’t have your bread buttered on all sides. Sometimes you have to sacrifice so there can be peace and happiness, which may reward you with your own peace and contentment.
Joseph Cambell wrote, “When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.”
Build that unity together as you each make willing sacrifices so you may grow as one.
3. Keep Your Sense of Humor
If you and your partner can’t laugh together, you won’t last long in marriage. Rita Rudner phrased this beautifully, “I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”
While the aim may not be to annoy your partner, you and they should have a great partnership that involves humor and teasing.
4. Remember the Little Things Too
If your marriage is going to be successful, you need to keep an eye on the little things that quickly add up to break the camel’s back. Your wife may end up divorcing you, not over your lack of love but because you simply never did the dishes or ironed your own shirts.
The Joyce Brothers stated this clearly: “Marriage is not just spiritual communion, it is also remembering to take out the trash.
5. Don’t Stay Angry
Anger can rip a marriage apart, so learning not to stay angry can help you maintain a healthy marriage. Carnie Wilson referred to anger by saying, “My husband and I are best of friends first and foremost. We fight like cats and dogs, but never stay mad for long. I was lucky to find him, he is in every way, my soulmate.”
6. Participate for Full Benefit
If you and your partner want to be truly happy and enjoy a truthful marriage, you should both participate equally. A marriage with a designated driver doesn’t thrive.
Samuel Richardson knew this truth when he said, “Marriage is the highest state of friendship. If happy, it lessens our cares by dividing them, at the same time that it doubles our pleasures by mutual participation.
7. It Starts and Ends With Respect
Your marriage should be founded on the principles of respect. When you have mutual respect, all other obstacles can be overcome and love will flourish.
Amy Grant knew this simple truth: “Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect, nothing that appears to be good will last very long.”
8. Choose Love as Your Reason
When your main reason for getting married is because you love each other, you know your marriage is bound to last. Josh Billings humorously phrased this much, “Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can’t help but smile on it.”
9. Don’t Compete With Each Other
A simple truth is that your main task in the marriage is to support and encourage your partner. Your life duet shouldn’t be a competition to see who sings best, but rather a sharing and both adding to the harmony of love.
Joe Murray phrased this so well, “Marriage should be a duet – when one sings, the other claps.”
10. Never Take Your Partner for Granted
Often, we only value something or someone when they are gone. In marriage, each day you value and show gratitude for each other, you build and grow your union brick by brick.
Honore de Balzac stated this so clearly, “Marriage must incessantly contend with a monster that devours everything: familiarity.”
11. True Authenticity Shines Through
When you and your partner reach that stage where you can really open up and share with no fear of being ridiculed, you have reached true marital bliss.
Enid Bagnold coined this your inner ancient child who comes out to play. “In marriage there are no manners to keep up, and beneath the wildest accusations no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other who may erupt again. We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That is the luxury of the wedding ring.”
12. Stay Loyal to Each Other
A marriage is something you and your partner should work at. It’s a relationship built between two friends, adding in an outsider is the road to disloyalty and infidelity.
Herbert Samuel alluded as much, “It takes two to make a marriage a success and only one to make it a failure.”
13. Your Marriage Is a Place of Safety
Not only is your marriage a place of love, but it’s also your safe place to hide when things get tough or the world becomes too threatening.
Your partner is your safety, and you are theirs. Luanne Rice called it safe harbor. “’Safe Harbor’ is a state of mind… it’s the place – in reality or metaphor – to which one goes in times of trouble or worry. It can be a friendship, marriage, church, garden, beach, poem, prayer, or song.”
14. Work on Your Partnership
Your marriage is firstly about being in a partnership where you both have the same goals and ideals. If you work at odds, your marriage is doomed.
Helen Mirren also focused on partnership as being the most important part of marriage, “The great marriages are partnerships. It can’t be a great marriage without being a partnership.”
15. Embrace the Constancy of Change
Your partner is not a fixed entity you marry and can expect to be the same every day for the next 30-50 years. People change, and change isn’t a bad thing. Instead, be there for them, helping them become more of who they are, embracing change and sharing in the joy of self-discovery in union with your partner.
Pearl S. Buck wrote, “A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.”
16. Be Vulnerable Together
When you and your partner reach the stage where you can be vulnerable together, you open up and let go of any preconceived ideas of each other. This is where a marriage stops being between two people and becomes between two partners.
Ashton Kutcher phrases this so beautifully, “Vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say, ‘This is me, and I’m interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more important, all that I am not.’”
17. Commitment Takes Work
Whether your partner is rich, just lost their job, or they are good looking or less so, your commitment is to them as they are each day. On good days or bad, your relationship is the source where you both come to renew and feel safe.
Mark Manson calls this the choice you make: “True love – that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy – is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances.”
Final Quotes on Marriage Thoughts
Your marriage is a sacred space where you find fulfillment and love, but it’s not a ready-made package that you simply unwrap at home and exchange when it no longer works. Instead, marriage takes work, as so many great minds of our times have written.
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